Wednesday 22nd July 2020
Scripture:- Matthew 19:1-9
Topic:- God’s Will For Marriage 
Text:- Malachi 2:14-16
G. Spirit-Filled Marriage:
Nobody gets married without the highest of hopes that this is going to be one of the finest, friendliest, most congenial, most satisfying relationships that anybody ever had. And that is a possibility. It is possible to live that kind of life.
However, we need to stop and consider what goes into a relationship that will guarantee happiness and contentment and satisfaction.
H. Marriage God’s Way:
Sometimes it seems as though a long-lasting marriage is determined by chance or circumstances or just plain old luck. However, there are some steps that will enable you to establish your marriage on a solid foundation that will help you stay in it for the long haul.
I. Successful Marriage:
The foundation upon which you build your marriage relationship is a mutually agreeable and mutually binding plan. That’s what makes marriage successful. It’s not a “tingle”; it’s a life-time commitment. It’s not competition; it’s cooperation.
Is your partnership built on this foundation? Just as teammates have to go into a game with the same plan, you and your partner must approach your marriage, not with the attitude of ‘me versus you,’ but with the attitude of being fully committed to the same plan.
J. An Inner Life For A Healthy Marriage:
There is no one person as intimately involved in your life as your marriage partner. So, your partner will make you more conscious of your inner life than anyone else.
How are you contributing to happiness in your marriage? Marriage, like no other human relationship, will keep you up to date on the condition of your inner life. It is a personal decision, unrelated to marriage, whether or not you repent of a negative inner life, and allow God to flood your soul with His Spirit.
K. A Solid Foundation:
I want to be a better spouse. You say this, thinking back over a multitude of incidents that make up the history of your family. Some of them were funny when they happened; others are funny only as we look back on them.
Still others were serious. Some were puzzling. There are months on end when a husband and wife get along beautifully; and then, out of the clear blue sky, there are frequent disagreements.
Then, just as mysteriously, things clear up. This is the ebb and flow, the fascination, the never-ending variety, the multitude of moods that make up family living.
L. Marriage Boundaries:
You probably got married as friends, but then found yourselves running into difficulty because you each had your own way of living and doing. You came from one family, and your partner came from another family, and those families were different.
Your job as a couple is to create some boundaries and rules that will guide you in your marriage. But if you’ve never created any rules before, and you or your partner don’t like rules and boundaries, it won’t be an easy task.
M. Who is The Leader:
You are equal partners making decisions in marriage. Responsibilities must be divided up. You need policies, procedures, and rules in order to work cooperatively as well as independently.
You will enjoy working together as you know each other better and gain confidence in each other’s decision-making ability.
Developing faith and trust takes many months. Forging a new way of life from your different backgrounds takes time and patience.
Remember, you are equal partners. You are both vitally interested in all areas of the marriage. As in a business, consult with each other and participate in making decisions and reviewing them.
N. Fixed The Problem In The Marriage:
Are you experiencing difficulty in your marriage relationship? Are there times when you just can’t seem to get on the same page with your spouse?
If you get married with the idea that the person you’re marrying is going to transform your life – turn you into a loving kindly, gentle, cheerful, happy person, you’re mistaken.
Marriage is first of all a matter of your spirit, and marriage will reveal what kind of spirit is in your heart.
O. Escaping Difficult Situations:
God is with us in every situation, and He is with us right where we are! What we need to discover is how to respond appropriately to our current circumstances. You can either have a wonderful time underneath your skin, or a miserable time underneath your skin, and it’s all up to you.
Prayer Points:- Oh Lord God, make me and my spouse to be faithful unto You and obey You henceforth by fire, in the name of Jesus Christ.